Q&A: Get to know me! (and my Keyboard Warriors… and Saviours)
FYI — I’ve kept the questions exactly as they were submitted. Typos, tone, weird punctuation and all…
A couple of weeks ago, I posted a 'Question and Answer' option on my Instagram story. Every now and then, when I have both the time and energy (seriously, two of my most precious resources), I like to engage with my audience. Here, I gave a couple of options:
Enter your undying questions into the classic Instagram sticker box
Or, if mystery is your vibe, submit anonymously through a link (shockingly easy — who knew?)
I was caught off-guard by the audacity of some questions — but, sadly, not completely surprised.
Shamelessly, I kicked things off with an anonymous question myself — just to make sure this option didn’t scare anyone off. (I know, how generous of me. Not one but two nudges!) Nice and simple:
“How long have you played basketball for?” (21 years or so, if you’re interested.)
It got the ball rolling… or, more accurately, bouncing.
Then — and I quote:
“seeing anyone atm?”, “Are you single? ❤️” (at least they put effort into punctuation and threw in a heart emoji), “Do you have a crush?”, “so how's your love life?”
Need I go on? Thankfully, I can’t — that was the full extent of the topic. Small mercies.
I’m not saying I’m ChatGPT and edit my writing flawlessly. But if I were to take the time to be curious about something as personal as this, I’d at least aim to rise slightly above the bare minimum.
Actually, while we’re here — repeat after me:
“I am worthy of receiving the abundance of love I give to the world. I will not accept the bare minimum.”
Now, you might be thinking…
“Sherrie, you’re the one who opened yourself up to this.”
And you’re not wrong! But let’s be clear — that doesn’t excuse (or encourage) some of the following:
“are you still thinking about your ex friend”
I would hope that any ‘former’ friend of mine would have the courage to approach me face to face... not via an anonymous message. And if you're asking for a friend... why?
“you’re impatient”
Interesting take — what makes you say that? (Also… not a question!). But sure, maybe when I’m hangry or running on two hours of sleep… or when I’ve waited an hour for food only to find out someone else took my order.
“I think you’ve really changed”
At first, I took this as a negative — maybe even passive-aggressive. But honestly? I now appreciate it as a compliment (that’s growth).
What depleted me most was how it tugged at the stitches of old 'injustice' wounds — ones I’m actively working through and, gratefully, healing. I think part of that comes from believing that because I try to promote safety, compassion, and empathy through what I share on Instagram, my audience would naturally reflect that back. But that expectation — that others will meet me where I am just because I lead with care — is something it’s taken me years to unlearn… and clearly, I’m still working on it.
I also understand the difficulty of interpreting tone and intention of comments online. So, I gave myself space. Once I processed this, I was able to come back and honestly answer the questions that I thought were (mostly) appropriate, thoughtful and fun!
“is it okay to just write you a dm?”
If you mean on Instagram, then yes! However sometimes I don't get notifications for message requests — I will try and get to any as soon as possible :)
“are you using tiktok a lot?
I post on there occasionally!
“Are you loving being back at hills [hornets]?”
Yes! I love the community - they are very supportive and are so excited in my return
“Have you ever done yoga outside? How was it?”
Yes! I love yoga outside, but haven't done it for a while. It is very grounding when you hear the birds chirping while you focus on movement with your breath
“when was the last time u had a bad day and why”
This is a really interesting question! Honestly, I don't remember the last bad day that I've had. That isn't to say that I don't have bad moments during the day - because I definitely do! But I believe most days there are always good/great/better things around the corner, no matter how terrible your day is. It all depends on your perspective and whether or not you choose to accept where you are at and acknowledge it as such. Not defining your day because of one or 10 bad things. There are silver linings in everything - my question to you is... can you find them?
Check out the reel I made in response to this question here!
“love or fame?”
LOVEEEEE!!!!!
“Have you considered [basketball] commentating? Would be amazing to have more female perspectives and not sure how you get into it, but I think you would be amazing !!!”
This is so fun! I have not, but I think that it could be something I delve into!
“are you worried about what people say about you”
Occasionally, because I'm human. But then I remind myself - no one will truly know me as deep as I do or who I choose to share myself with :)
“you are a truly unique person, in a good sense!” (thanks for the clarification in tone)
Thank you! I believe that if we continue to show up as our unique selves (easier said than done), we attract like minded people and live life with so much more love/compassion/empathy!
“I think you've really changed”
Thank you for noticing, I'm glad that I have changed! If I was the same person I was two weeks ago, let alone 2 years ago, then I would be disappointed that I've not taken advantage of the obstacles/opportunities in my way directing me towards a better purpose.
This Q&A (like many I’ve done in the past) reminded me just how loud the internet can be. I’m not saying the questionable messages were full of hate — but they did highlight the spectrum of what it means to connect online.
Between the keyboard warriors who misuse the privilege of anonymity, and the keyboard saviours who mirrored my curiosity and patience — thank you. Every interaction teaches you something: about others, and about yourself.
I’ve grown, and I’m still growing. I’ve softened in some ways and strengthened in others. I’ll always lead with compassion, but I’m learning where to draw the line between curiosity and intrusion.
To those who showed up with intention and kindness: I appreciate you. You reminded me why I love sharing, even when it feels vulnerable. And to those still figuring out how to express themselves: I hope you come to understand the power of asking better questions.
These moments remind me why I keep showing up here — not just to be seen, but to create spaces where others feel safe to be seen too.
It’s not always neat. It’s not always easy. But it’s always real.
And to you, thanks for being here — truly. I don’t take your time, energy, or attention for granted.
